I am Fernanda Medina, a mother of two wonderful young adults. I hold a degree in clinical psychology, and 4 Master’s degrees in psychotherapy, and I focus on relationships and communication. Over the past 25 years, I have helped hundreds of women, families, couples, and adolescents radically heal, transform, and navigate their relationships with their loved ones, with ease and joy. My innovative techniques of communication have helped my clients move from pain, disempowerment, and loneliness to feeling connected, empowered, and loved. Having gone through family struggles myself and healed my relationships, I deeply understand what it takes to shift communication and behavior patterns so that couples can save their marriages, parents can reconnect with their adolescents and children, and people, in general, can create their relationships in a respectful, meaningful, and loving way.

I feel so grateful and blessed to have an amazing relationship with my loving, kind, strong, and compassionate partner. I get to wake up every day feeling so cared for, safe, heard and understood by him. 

I am also the mother of two wonderful young adults that I feel deeply connected to… As a mother of two, I have always sought the best for my children, just like I am sure you have. I diligently endeavored to raise them conscientiously, yet I found myself facing unforeseen challenges.

But it wasn’t always like this for me…

Struggling with Communication Breakdowns and Conflict as a Child

I grew up in an extremely emotionally explosive household in Mexico City, where calm and peace were not the norm, especially with my father.

My father was an example of perfection and control. If things were not exactly as he expected he would explode. He was not very patient, and constantly yelled and took his anger out on the rest of the family if we were to disagree or do anything differently than how he wanted things.

I was then forced to become a warrior at a very early age. Even by 4 years old, my parents had took me to a psychologist because I did not behave perfectly, as they expected. I grew up never feeling fully safe and secure in love and I also developed a personality where I needed to defend myself constantly in anticipation of what could go wrong at any moment.

I had anxiety and an underlying insecurity in love because I felt that things could go South at any time. Fast forward several years, and what do you think I began to attract in my dating and love life? That's right... "Emotionally Unavailable controlling and perfectionist Men!"

Struggling with Communication Breakdowns and Conflict in the Relationships with my Partner and Children

One day a friend of mine told me that maybe the way I was speaking to them had to do with the problem. I thought that I was a great communicator, but after sitting with this and considering what he said I soon realized that he was right!

My friend recommended some powerful communication resources and I began studying EVERYTHING that I could get my hands around that. I went to dozens of workshops & training on these subjects, read hundreds of books and spent tens of thousands of dollars on radically heal and transform my relationships.

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“I began to feel the loneliness, frustration and sadness because I felt that I had to protect myself all the time, with my partner and later on also with my children. 

Things took a serious turn when my relationship with my 18-year-old son reached also a challenging point. Our communication had deteriorated, leading to constant arguments and a pervasive sense of disconnection. Despite my best efforts to establish house rules, it seemed nothing could elicit a positive response. Politeness, conversation, explanations, and even grounding him—all proved futile. Desperation set in, and I felt profoundly disconnected from my own child.

Simultaneously, my marriage faced its own set of challenges. My husband and I found ourselves trapped in a relentless cycle of disagreements, adversely impacting our entire family. Despite sincere attempts to resolve conflicts, our efforts seemed to backfire, pushing us to the brink of separation and our family towards disintegration.
I felt they were a team against me. Because of this my husband and I got divorced after 26 years.

I was devastated. Even as a therapist I was not able to have the peaceful and harmonious relationship I wanted. I knew that the type of relationship I had with my parents growing up was directly correlated with my ongoing relationship struggles with my husband and family. 

It Was Challenging!

The initial stages of learning these new ways of communicating were challenging and confusing, but I persisted. I started applying everything I was learning with my son as well as at risk youth in the public school system and started seeing incredible results.

I also shortly after that attracted my partner that I have now. There were some miscommunications and real struggles at the beginning of our relationship but because of the new techniques I had learned I was able to take responsibility and shift the dynamic. Defensiveness stopped, shame stopped, arguments stopped and no one was the “bad guy” in the relationship any longer.

It Was Beautiful!

After seeing these incredible transformations this had with my son, with my clients and in my own relationship I decided to organize this knowledge and synthesize it into my Compassionate Relationship System so that others could easily start implementing it into their own lives and relationships to see amazing and REAL results quickly.

I again feel so grateful and blessed to have the amazing relationship with my loving, kind and compassionate partner where I feel so cared for, safe, heard and understood. As well as my deeply connected and understanding relationships that I now have with my beautiful adult children.

Because of this journey and the results I was able to see with myself and my clients over and over again, THAT is why I became so passionate about wanting to help other successful women to feel seen, heard & acknowledged in their own relationships and have a loving & joyful partnership without anger, frustration or loneliness any longer.

If you’re ready for this as well, click the button below to book your complimentary 1:1 “Get The Relationship You Desire” Breakthrough Session with me and I would love to help you to get this new transformation in your own life & relationships as well fast!

I again feel so grateful and blessed to have the amazing relationship with my loving, kind and compassionate partner where I feel so cared for, safe, heard and understood. As well as my deeply connected and understanding relationships that I now have with my beautiful adult children.

Because of this journey and the results I was able to see with myself and my clients over and over again, THAT is why I became so passionate about wanting to help other successful women to feel seen, heard & acknowledged in their own relationships and have a loving & joyful partnership without anger, frustration or loneliness any longer.

If you’re ready for this as well, click the button below to book your complimentary 1:1 “Get The Relationship You Desire” Breakthrough Session with me and I would love to help you to get this new transformation in your own life & relationships as well fast!

The 13-year-olds had outstanding results in transforming their family relationships at home when they applied the new communication skills I taught them. 

From studying these results and my own, I created a system to develop compassionate relationships, I have been teaching this system to my clients and applying it in my own relationships for over 10 years.

I'm thrilled to share that today, my son 27-year-old son and I enjoy a friendly, respectful, committed, and deeply connected relationship. I feel happy and fulfilled in my relationship with him, and have a constant smile on my face. At last, we both feel seen, understood, valued, and secure in our relationship. Defensiveness has long gone!

In Summary, we can easily:

 We were struggling with our 6-year-old son's behavior. It didn't matter what we would do or say, nothing seemed to work. He was acting out at school and behaved in a way that was hurting himself emotionally. Luckily, I found Fernanda who's helping us communicate with our son, and also understand him. She has given us tools to work with and we can already after three sessions see changes in how we communicate and behave as a family. Before working with Fernanda I was feeling stressed, not knowing what to do but now I feel relieved and hopeful. 

- Jessica. Santa Cruz, CA.

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