Were you 3 emotional needs met as a child?
Similar to how your physical body relies on food, water, and oxygen for survival, there are three core emotional needs that are essential and must have been fulfilled by your caregivers during childhood in order to pave the way for your emotional well-being as an adult. These are: Boundaries, Safety and Love!
BOUNDARIES
<Our capacity to say no and our capacity to say yes>
The way boundaries were set in your household in your early development, paved the way for your ability to say a hard-full-body YES, or a clear and safe NO, to yourself and to others. 3 core emotional needs
If boundaries were not set appropriately when you were a child, if they were not respected or if they were not clear or fair; as an adult you might be experiencing:
SAFETY
<A place where your nervous system feels safe and at ease>
The environment you grew up in determines how much you can regulate your nervous system, and the ability you have to self-soothe.
Growing up in a household where conflict and violence were a constant, your nervous system might have understood that as a “normal environment” for you, so now in your adult life you might experience:
LOVE
<Feeling love in your heart, in your physical body, and in your emotional body>
The way you understand love comes from the way your caregivers respected, nourished, or how responsive they were to you and your needs.
If you felt like your caregiver’s love was only present on condition, you felt neglected, or if the way they expressed love was harsh and cruel, now you might experience: 3 core emotional needs, essential
Were these 3 core emotional needs met as a child?
In short, in the past, your caregivers served as models for setting boundaries, understanding how to feel safe, and experiencing what it means to love and be loved. Presently you have the opportunity to change.
If you were left with unmet emotional needs as a child, don't worry.
THE SILVER LINING IS:
That now as adults, we possess the capacity to reshape these patterns, unlearn, relearn, and create the change and transformation we need.
Now it's up to you to nourish and fulfill these 3 core emotional needs!
Special thanks to Alex Howard for being the inspiration for this Blog post.
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